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Femdom, short for female domination covers such a vast array of fetishes and interests, sexual and domestic lifestyle that everyone's definition would differ making an exact definition impossible. Of course everyone has different bdsm femdom fetishes and fantasies but the basic principle being that of superior women and inferior male slaves. Sometimes this is just for play fantasy sessions that you would find a Dominatrix in a dungeon doing and to some a complete 24/7 femdom, lifestyle. Also called TPE total power exchange or APE actual power exchange. A Dominant Mistress or dom tgirl can lead some people into money slavery and financial domination although that seems to be more fantasy than reality, many say they are financial slaves but never follow it through. They like the humiliation of being a pay pig, money slave and naturally some women like to receive their gifts. How about surrender to a BBW Mistress, meaning Big Beautiful Woman, this is quite popular with certain male submissives as is CBT, cock and ball torture CP, corporal punishment, anal play and bondage. Have a look at the bdsm glossary at the bottom of this page for better explanations. Many dominatrix interests include trampling, walking over the sub either in heels or bare feet. I saw an episode of Desperate housewives where this happened. Foot worship can be wearing shoes or boots or naked feet, massaging or kissing/licking them, sometimes when they are dirty sometimes not. Serving a Black Femdom is a particular attraction to some a stunning ebony Mistress brings a different kind of power exchange and adds a new element. A lifestyle dominatrix can also be a professional Mistress or just lives the lifestyle, different again from fetish models who prefer just to dress in shiny clothes, rubber leather PVC etc. A strap on queen for the many strap on lovers who love being anally invaded by their Mistress with a strap on forced to wear a dildo. Boots and high heels the higher and sharper the spiked heel the better. Oriental Goddess or Mistress again different races add a different dimension who subordinate men to their authority. Caning sometimes referred to as English discipline. Exquisite punishments and high class domination with an upper class English accent. How about hypno femdom, hypnotising the sub by the Mistress is a relatively new specialization. Apparently giving the Dominant more power and control as they control their slave mentally and can bind without any actual physical bonds, handcuffs etc. Some Mistress are more sensual than sadistic and use tie and tease orgasm denial. Dress less in fetish clothing and more in silk, satin blouses, skirts, elegant rather than powerful looking.
The image of a stunning, beautiful Dominatrix dressed in rubber, leather, corsets, thigh high boots etc is a very popular one, a fantasy one. Clothing fetish is very strong and also applicable to the submissive who may like to be feminized, turned into a sissy wearing women's lingerie. Forced feminization were the female dominant forces her male sub into feminine clothing to humiliate and extend her control over her victim. Also adult baby regression not so common but one of many variations.
It is often stated that the psychological aspects to domination are the most important and then the "play" comes afterwards. Getting the submissive to accept in his/her head that the woman is superior is the first step to achieving female domination. Male submission allows the woman to get what she wants and the male to be happy serving his Mistress putting her needs first. The play of course is where all of the activities come into effect that are generally searched for on the net. Sadistic acts by a cruel beautiful Dominatrix to a bound helpless male slave, just reading the words can be exciting. Incidentally try reading the femdom stories pages, stories of female domination, some are very good.
So what are these activities, above is a list of some of them but this is not an official glossary or exhaustive list as I am sure there are so many more not even named yet.
Here is a list of slave rules that can be used. A Mistress and slave will generally adapt it, add or take away from it to make it personal and more relevant to themselves.
1. You will devote yourself to serving and pleasing Me, My pleasure is all that
2. Obey all instructions and orders to the letter, do not answer back
3. Understand that I have total power, total control and total domination always
4. Accept any punishment without complaint
5. Always show respect in publc and private
6. Talk in a soft tone with your head down when in private
7. If your submission level drops or if I perceive it has dropped you will be punished
8. Ask permission to go to the bathroom or leave the house or to leave a room in My presence
9. Ask for permission to get into bed with Me
10. In the morning in bed wake me up by kissing my stomach or inside of thighs and await further orders
11. Do not get out of My bed in the morning without My permission, thats if you are not tied or chained to it in some way.
12. Do any domestic tasks to the best of your ability and without complaint
13. Recognize that I am ALWAYS right, I know what is best for both of us.
14. Dress in female clothes or as a sissy maid if instructed
15. Be grateful and thank Me if I allow you to cum from time to time
16. Wear a chastity device at all times, I will have the key not you
17. You will never orgasm again without My permission, you will always be tied when doing so and will orgasm exactly on My command.
18. Phone Me or be online at times I specify and not at other times
19. Thank Me when I whip or beat you, do not moan or yelp without permission
20. Be grateful and thank Me if I use you as my personal toilet
21. Do not speak if I do not wish you to
22. Keep My clothes, shoes and wardrobe spotless
23. Avoid looking directly at My face and look downwards in my presence
24. Kneel before Me at all appropriate times especially if i snap My fingers
25. Willingly sleep in bondage if I wish you to
26. Accept being put in chains and any form of bondage
27. Remain passive when being tied, do not struggle in your bondage unless i have allowed it
28. Compliment me on My beauty and superiority regularly
29. Be prepared to have to wear remote controlled electric shock devices
30. Accept that you are My slave and My property to do with as I like
31. Be grateful for every new humiliation I see fit to inflict on you
32. Serve Me with gratitude and eagerness, be desperate to please Me
33. Seek My permission in advance before going out
34. Willingly accept any amount of bondage or torture, including electric shocks, with gratitude
35. Kneel and say a prayer of obedience before Me daily
36. Willingly be tied up, gagged, beaten and whipped if it pleases Me
37. Lick My shoes and boots when ordered
38. Offer Me a drink and ensure I am not waiting
39. Kneel when talking to Me on the phone or sending Me and email.
40. Obey Me at all times, submit and surrender
41. Regard it as a great honour if I have sex with you
42. We are unequal, it is never fair, it is always about Me, I am selfish and cruel, it is how it is and will never change.
43. Always put My needs and desires above your own, you have no choice anymore.
44. Never tire of serving Me no matter what the circumstances
45. Willingly accept that I am superior to you in every way, You do not stand a chance against Me.
46. Try to anticipate My wishes so that I do not need to tell you
47. Chauffeur Me when ordered
48. If a passanger to My driving keep your hands behind your back as if tied and legs apart.
49. Happily accompany me to fetish events
50. Wear any gags or collars or restraints that I demand
51. Think about Me all the time and try and work out ways of making Me happy
52. We will be monogamous with each other.
53. Call me Mistress at all times unless told otherwise, you are called slave
54. Remember that I am competely superior to you always, 24/7/365.
55. Do not expect any rights or freedom without permission
56. Keep yourself clean and healthy always
57. Exercise and stay slim
58. Consider yourself property, My posession, My slave and My prisoner with no escape.
59. Do not be dominated by anyone else.
60. When outdoors you will keep close to Me by whatever distance I have set, either 1 metre, 2 , 5 etc
61. Never stop admiring My beauty, My body and My dominant personality
62. Walk slightly behind Me unless opening a door or other necessary function.
63. Lie at My feet when resting
64. Dress in clothing that I wish
65. Do not comment on My choice of where we go when we are out, what we should watch on TV or what we should eat
66. Be punctual at all times when meeting or phoning Me
67. Run My bath how I like it, bath Me if ordered or wait head down for Me to finish, prepare a warm towel and My clothes
68. Ensure My cosmetics and beauty treatments are clean and well ordered
69. Never forget that I am a Goddess and that you are a male slave who is unfit to lick the soles of My shoes
70. Try and make sure that I always have everything I need each day
71. Always remember that i have complete control, domination and authority over you.
72. Accept that there are no limits to My domination over you, both mental and physical
73. Wear with pride any slave ring or slave collar depicting our relationship
74. Happily eat or drink from a slave or dog bowl or from the floor. Which is a reward as Your Mistress walks on it.
75. Be proud when I introduce you as My slave
76. Keep your genital areas free of hair
77. Eventually your opinions, likes and dislikes will be Mine, I will own your mind, you will think as I wish you to think.
78. Listen carefully to My instructions so as to avoid mistakes
79. If you do make a mistake apologise and make amends if I tell you to
80. Do not be cheeky or undermine Me in front of others but try to make Me laugh when we are socializing
81. Rules exist for outdoors as well as indoors although less strict
82. When i allow "normal" conversation you will still never forget your place and phrase things accordingly.
83. I will break you and turn you into exactly what I want, what you want no longer matters
84. Do not react if I criticize you, accuse you or snap at you without apparent reason
85. You will accept proplonged periods of bondage when not serving Me
86. Work hard to earn money for our lifestyle
87. Do not spend money wastefully
88. Your body, your dick, your anus, your mouth and all of you are mine to do with as I please
89. Happily endure any amount of pain to demonstrate your submission for me
90. Never doubt anything I say and accept what I say as the law
91. Always remember that you are the luckiest man alive to have Me as your Mistress
92. Memorise all kneeling, serving and lying slave positions
93. Enjoy being a permanent slave and property
94. Remember that the only thing that is important is Me and My happiness
95. Be prepared to sleep in a straight jacket or in any other form of bondage
96. Be prepared to serve Me sexually giving oral whenever and wherever I command
97. Remember always that My pleasure comes first and always try to give Me better orgasms.
98. Show respect for My superiority at all times, this is permanent TPE and will be enforced as such.
99. Accept golden showers and all humiliations greatfully
100. Never try to escape from Me, punishment for doing so will be hard, even if I think its crossed your mind I will punish you.
Different Levels Of Submission
You will see on many BDSM sites or hear mentioned on the "scene" the terms submissive and slave. So what is the difference or is it just playing with words. When someone says I want to be your slave, sometimes they only want to be tied up and whipped which in the definitive sense is hardly being a slave. Professional Domina's can refer to their clients as slaves when really the term is only being used for erotic stimulation, to create the right atmosphere. At the other end of the spectrum there are people who genuinely desire to be full time 24/7 personal servants, existing solely for their dominants use, pleasure, amusement and convenience, devoting their life to the service of their dominant. As a chattel, the property of their "Owner". Most subs/slaves sit in between the person seeking erotic satisfaction from a professional and the latter completely owned servant. That is where this guide may be useful in maybe pinpointing where you are, wish to be, or wish your sub to be.
NON SUBMISSIVE MASOCHIST Not into serving someone else at all, no interest in humiliation or giving up control to someone else. They seek just pain or spiced-up sensuality. They act on the their own terms and for their own direct pleasure. Turned on by their own bodily sensations rather than by being used to gratify a Dominants sadism.
PSEUDO SUBMISSIVE NON SLAVE Not interested in playing as a slave but probably into other submissive role-playing games, maybe dominant school teacher, interrogation, prison officer, infantilism, forced feminization. Would usually like humiliation, but not into serving the dominants desires, not even in play. They like to dictate the scene almost totally, often referred to as topping from the bottom.
PSEUDO SUBMISSIVE PLAY SLAVE They like to play at being a slave, fulfilling a fantasy, they like to feel subservient to the dominant. In some cases to feel like they are being used to gratify the dominants sadism. May actually serve the dominant in some ways but generally on the submissive's terms. Will dictate the scene to a large degree. They are often fetish orientated, liking foot worship, fetish clothing, high heels, boots etc.
TRUE SUBMISSIVE NON SLAVE They give up control but temporarily and always within agreed limits negotiated beforehand. They get their main satisfaction from being submissive other than that of serving or being used. In other words they are usually turned on by suspense, apprehension of the unknown, being left vulnerable, having no responsibility. They do not dictate the scene apart from agreed limits but still obtain their pleasure from what happens to them rather than getting pleasure from pleasing or serving the dominant.
TRUE SUBMISSIVE PLAY SLAVE They give up control although again only temporarily during play scenes and within agreed limits but in this case get their satisfaction from serving the dominant. Being used by the dominant but only in erotic or fun situations. They may be a masochist, turned on by pain but indirectly. Suffering as the object of the dominants sadism. The submissive places very few limits or restrictions on the dominant.
SHORT TERM SEMI SLAVE They give up control and want to serve and be used by the dominant. The first level of actually wanting to provide non erotic submission but only when the slave is in the mood, hence the short term classification. The period may even be several days where they act as a full time servant but ultimately they are free to quit whenever they wish or when the agreed period ends. May be in a LTR with the Mistress, but the slave has the final say over when serving.
PART TIME CONSENSUAL REAL SLAVE They have committed to a Mistress/slave relationship and regard themselves as the property of the Mistress without time constraints . They want to obey, serve and please in all aspects of life including everyday practical domestic chores as well as erotic. Devoting most of their time to other commitments, probably has a full time job but nearly all of their free time is controlled by the dominant.
FULL TIME CONSENSUAL REAL SLAVE The slave regards themselves as existing for the pleasure of the dominant to serve and obey without question although there are a few pre agreed limits. The slave expects to be regarded as the dominants property/chattel. Possibly similar to that of the traditional housewife in the 1950s. Apart from in this case the slave's position is fully consensual and they are considered a househusband or slavehusband. They understand how much power is being given up and that it is way past just erotic games. This arrangement is only entered into with care and awareness of the part of the salve and dominant, this is not a traditional marriage by any means.
TOTAL NO LIMIT SLAVE A very popular fantasy which probably doesn't exist in reality. Maybe in religious cults or situations where brainwashing has induced the situation. If somebody considers themselves a total no limits slave and says they would do anything for their dominant then they would probably be dangerous to themselves, others and the dominant also. Treat such claims with scepticism.
Here are 3 different consensual slavery contracts that can be used in a Femdom BDSM relationship. As with the rules they can be modified and adapted to suit each individual couple. The point is that it is consensual. The contract can also be used in conjunction with the list of rules and so clearly stating the structure of the relationship.
I ..................................... with an open
free mind request of
........................................ that She accept the submission of my will unto Her and to take me into Her care and guidance, that W/we may grow together in love, trust and mutual respect. The satisfaction of Her wants, desires, and whims are consistent with my desire as a submissive to please Her. To that end, I offer Her use of my time, talents, and abilities. Further I ask that as my Mistress, She accept the keeping of my body in good health for the fulfilment and enhancement of our sexual, spiritual, emotional, and intellectual needs. She may have unfettered use of my body at any time or any place, in front of anyone as She will determine.
I ask that She guides and trains me in any sexual, sensual, or scene-related behaviour to better achieve Her aims.
I request of ....................................... as my Mistress, that She use the power to mould and shape me assisting me to grow in strength, character, confidence and that She continue to help me to develop my submissive nature in her service.
In return I agree:
To always obey Her commands to the best of my ability and talents.
To overcome feelings of guilt or shame, and all inhibitions that interfere with my capability to serve Her and limit my growth as Her submissive.
To reveal my thoughts, feelings, and desires without hesitation or embarrassment, never hiding anything and being completely honest.
To inform Her of my wants and needs that I may perceive I have, recognizing that She is the judge of this and knows better than me what my needs are.
To be a happy and self-fulfilled individual, happy in my submission and life as Her slave.
To strive to work against any negative aspects of my male ego and my insecurities that would interfere with complete submission to Her.
My surrender as a submissive is done with the knowledge that She will not ask of me anything dangerous or harmful to myself, Her or others.
This I do promise with clear thought and the realization of what this means, both stated and implied.
Should it be found that our aspirations are not being well served by this agreement or for any other reason wish to cancel we may do so by verbal notification to the other as this is a consensual slavery agreement. A cancellation means an end to the control stated and implied within this agreement.
This agreement serves as an extension of our relationship, committed to in the spirit of loving and consensual dominance and submission.
I consent to submission to ...................................... under the terms stated above on this date...................
Signature of Submissive
I accept the submission by ..................................under these terms stated above on this date......................
Signature of Dominant
I of my own free will and being in good mental health offer myself in slavery to my beloved Mistress for the period beginning on .................... and ending on .......................
During the time period expressed above I consider myself to be a 24/7 slave to my Mistress. I will devote myself completely and totally to the pleasure and desires of my Mistress without hesitation.
The slave agrees to obey his Mistress in all areas. The slaves mind, body, soul and time belong to Her. The slave accepts the using of his safe word when necessary but shall always be used responsibly. The slave completely trusts his Mistress to respect the use of the safe word. If a condition arises in which the slave needs to use the safe word, or pre determined gesture if verbal communication is not possible, the Mistress will assess the situation and determine an appropriate course of action to ensure safety but not lose her position of authority.
The slave shall keep his body clean and hygienic, available for the use of his Mistress at all times. The slave accepts that his Mistress has the right to determine whether others can use his body as his body belongs to the Mistress. The Mistress will discuss these instances in advance to be certain that such play with others will not exceed agreed limits. The slave acknowledges that his Mistress may use his body and mind in any manner She wishes to please or amuse Her. She may hurt her slave without reason just to please Herself. The slave may or may not have the right to cry, scream or beg and accepts that begging or crying will not affect his treatment. The slave accepts that the Mistress may gag him if his cries are tiresome or take other actions to silence him.
The slave may be allowed to have free periods during which the slave may express himself openly without the fear of punishments. The slave will still continue to address his Mistress with respect and submission and that any deviation from this will be punished at a later time. The slave is not permitted to act in a disrespectful or unhumble manner even in free periods.
The slave will answer all questions put to him honestly and directly
without hesitation, he has no right to emotional privacy and will
volunteer any information about his physical or
emotional condition. However the slave does not have the right to complain, he will
voice his concerns politely and
respectfully without any hint of displeasure and accept the decision of the
Mistress to best address these issues..
The slave understands that punishment may be administered for any infraction or perceived infraction of the letter or spirit of this contract and the slave will furthermore accept the punishment gratefully. The form and severity of the punishment shall always be decided by the Mistress to please her as well as to punish. The Mistress will not punish in such a way as to inflict harm upon the slave that might require the attention of anyone outside the relationship.
All rights and privileges not already noted in the contract belong to the Mistress and will require Her consent. The contract may be edited when new provisions need to be made.
Private Rules of Submissive Conduct
On days when his Mistress is working the slave will greet Her at the door wearing his collar, wrist restraints, and any attire belonging to his Mistress that she has deemed appropriate. he is not permitted to wear male or female underwear in her presence unless given permission. The slave will always dress as the Mistress has instructed. When in the same room as his Mistress the slave needs to ask for permission before leaving the room and then explain where he is going and why before being allowed to leave. At mealtimes the slave will prepare and serve his Mistress and then sit at her feet obediently while She eats. The slaves food will be given by the Mistress at her discretion in a manner she decides upon whether from a plate or bowl. When speaking to his Mistress or being spoken to by Her the slave will not meet his Mistress's eyes directly, unless instructed to do otherwise.
Public Rules of Submissive Conduct
The slave will at all times act in a manner as to not call attention to the fact that they are Mistress and slave. he will call his Mistress by her name unless the use of "Mistress" is appropriate. Reasons possibly being with certain knowing "scene" friends or when not in the hearing range of others. The slave will always defer to his Mistress in public and never create a situation where she may look incorrect. The slave will seek approval of any clothing he wishes to wear in public. Unless given permission the slave may not wear male underwear and will always dress in women's panties.
This contract is not intended to interfere with the slave's career. The Mistress wishes the slave to work hard and honestly so therefore the slave is permitted to schedule appointments when necessary, answer the telephone, to dress in a manner appropriate to work and to leave the house when necessary without the expressed permission of his Mistress. Although the slave must inform the Mistress of his whereabouts at all times.
agree to accept and obey all the rules stated in this contract as well as any
rules my Mistress may choose to issue at a later date.
Signature of slave
I accept My slave's desire to serve Me and take responsibility for his well-being, training and discipline to more perfectly serve My will.
Signature of Mistress
Slavery Contract between
............................... now referred to as "Owner" binds this contract with her signature and the signature of ...............................now referred to as "slave" in this slavery contract. The contract refers to total dominance and control by the Owner in her relationship with her slave.
The purpose of this contract is to formalise the Ownership of the slave and all that this implies. This contract is written to make clear the rights of the Owner and the consequences for failure if the slave does not live up to this agreement. It is a permanent reminder of the many duties and responsibilities of a 24/7 slave.
Symbols of Ownership chosen by the Owner for the slave to wear include ...................................................... Symbols of Ownership are visible reminders of the status of the slave and its chosen lifestyle, they are a constant reminder of the Owners control.
Duties of Servitude
It is the duty of the slave to serve and please his Owner.
Personal Duties include but not limited to: Physical and emotional needs of the Owner, amusement, being a sexual toy, a plaything, giving physical comfort, total obedience, honesty and loyalty, waiting on Owner on hand and foot as desired.
Household Duties include but not limited to: Cleaning, keeping the home spotless, doing laundry, shopping, cooking, running errands. Any tasks assigned are considered to be permanent. Any expenditure over $/£/€10.00 will be completely subject to the approval of Owner prior to purchase unless said item may be returned for a full refund. General food shopping is not subject to this requirement. An allowance will be set by Owner for the slave to use which can be increased/decreased or taken away at any time.
If the slave wishes to use the computer he will ask for a specific time to do so. Permission may be given by the Owner and the slave will stop using the computer immediately when this time period expires unless an extension is asked for and permission granted. If Owner is not at home slave may be permitted to engage in this or other recreation activities as long as any chores, commands or cleaning that need to be done are completed to a high standard.
Slave acknowledges that Owner's authority supersedes his in any decision including but not limited to travelling plans, priorities, visitations, recreation, obligations, diet, reading, consumption, communications or any yet to be realised activity.
Owner will not injure, permanently mark or change the slaves
The slave shall be respectful to the Owner at all times. Disrespect is a serious offense and will always be severely punished. Being respectful includes the slaves manner of speech, promptness of obedience, kneeling to serve, accurate answers, unhesitating submission, loyalty and honesty. Respect and obedience are the two most important aspects of the slaves behaviour. Failure will always be punished, the severity being at the pleasure and discretion of the Mistress.
Slave shall address the Dominant as .......................
at all times and shall pay full attention when spoken to. The Owners wishes are
more important than any other activity the slave may be engaged in. The slave
shall walk, kneel, sit, stand and lay where, when and however the dominant
commands. Slave shall always remain in bed at night unless permission is
granted. The slave shall not remove any restraint device for any other reason
than an emergency.
The slave shall address the Dominant as ......................... at all times when there is not enough privacy to use the previously decided upon title of ..................... The slave shall remain within 2 metres of the Owner unless a greater length of "invisible chain" is decided upon. The slave will show Owner full respect and dress as ordered to please Owner. The slave has not right to argue or show dissent
Friends and Relatives
Friends and relatives of the Owner will be treated with the utmost respect. No argument, criticism or lack of courtesy will be tolerated. Slave shall never insult or criticize any of Owner's friends or relatives. Owner may provide lodging for any friend or relative she wishes. Permission is required from the Owner if the slave wishes to provide lodging for any of their friends or relatives.
Training may include daily discipline, offering bed cuffs, spending the night in bondage. Being given a weekly training scheduled to practice positions, servitude or worship. Bondage and restraint, dog leash training, body and/or foot worship. Humiliation, surprise discipline, caging, bondage time, gags, hoods, etc.
Punishment is given for any infraction of this contract
including going anywhere without permission. Signs of rudeness, signs of
disobedience or a relaxing of the level of submission, even if it is only
perceived. The slave will not only be totally submissive but make it known
through actions and promptness.
The slave shall perform a confession ritual once a month where he will confess any breaking of the rules or improper thoughts and then be punished accordingly.
Mild: slapping, ear or nipple pinching, cropping, hair
pulling, going to bed early, time-outs
Medium: multiple slapping, genital pinching, intense bondage time, clamps and weights.
Severe: panty or ball gags, leg chains and/or handcuffs, caning.
Slave is not allowed to achieve an orgasm without the permission of Owner. The Mistress owns the slave and by right owns his orgasms. The slave's orgasms will be controlled for training purposes, teaching the slave good habits and providing motivation. The slave will be rewarded with permission to achieve orgasm through good behaviour. The carrot and stick (punishment) will ensure complete obedience
Drinking and Drugs
Slave is allowed to drink alcohol only with explicit permission from Owner, when and where and how much she permits. Recreational drugs are never permitted, a healthy slave is an obedient slave. Drinking will be permitted when going out to eat but limited to an amount decided upon by Owner. Slave may attend bars only with Owner or with her permission when wishing to go with someone else. Slave must ask permission for each and every drink and thank Mistress if permission is given.
Slave is allowed to write and talk to any family member as long as it does not interfere with his servitude or contravenes anything in this contract. The Dominant owns the time of the slave and has first call on it always. The slave has not rights to visit but is allowed privileges which can be given or taken away.
This Contract is valid from the day of signature and runs for 6 months, it may be renewed or renegotiated if Owner and/or slave feel it needs to be reviewed and updated.
................................................. Owners signature
................................................... slaves signature
The varying slave positions are useful
methods for training purposes and establishing the power dynamic, they
1: Allow the submissive to show their submission and devotion
2: Force them to concentrate on obeying the dominant
3: Gives the slave a feeling of helplessness and a constant reminder of their status
4: Assists in their training and controlling behaviour,
5: Present themselves for punishment
6: To perform an examination of the slave’s body
7: To inspect and have easy access to the slaves body for sexual puropses
8: To simply humiliate the slave
9: To teach a slave patience
10: To temporarily restrain the slave from going anywhere with the mental bonds of the position
No doubt many more can be added . The slave positions are a very useful tool and should never be overlooked. With one word, look or gesture a Mistress orders a slave into a useful or pleasing position. Slavery positions provide great control and the quicker they are learnt the better for establishing a power exchange relationship. The slave can only leave the ordered position with the permission of the Mistress also helping condition the mind to obedience.
Verbal commands for each position are
normally short and concise so that there can be no misunderstandings.
For example a command of KNEEL can be kneeling but in a certain
predefined way whereas KNEEL SPREAD would be kneeling in a
different manner. Each must be learned accurately and to the Mistress's
wishes. There can also ne areas in the house that when a command is
given the slave must go to and wait until released, staying there
quietly in a certain position.
There are of course positions that are used for punishment. Positions that if you hold them for a period of time become painful, simple and effective discipline. Sexual positions are taught to allow the slave worship the body of their Mistress. For further play and humiliation rules only allow the slave crawl, not allowed to walk on two feet. Animal play moving like a dog or worm, the slave crawling on their belly or hands and knees. Positions can be used to show off an obedient slave in public.
Acceptable responses from a slave after being ordered into a position are normally simply "yes Mistress", they should move quickly and gracefully to the assumed position.
Attend: A slave is ordered to attend to the needs of the
Mistress, normally non-sexual
Attention: The slave stands, feet and ankles together arms are at their sides. The slaves back is straight and eyes are focused forward but not staring directly at the Dominant
Assume Spot: A position normally to the left and slightly behind a dominant, the slave would be in a more comfortable relaxed position which can be maintained for extended periods of time if necessary.
Auction: This is used to display the slave at an auction or to show off the slave. The slave faces the viewers legs spread and arms at a 45 degree angle from their body, palms facing the viewers. Then on a command the slave turns away and assumes the same position but now showing their rear.
Bring,Get,Fetch: Used to instruct a slave to get an object for their Mistress as you would instruct a dog to do similar. A sub command can be used only allowing the slave to use their mouth to retrieve the object.
Come,Present: This normally would be a face down position, standing with arms at the side and legs together. Can also be arms stretched out above head, wrists and ankles crossed to represent being bound.
Crawl: Not as self explanatory as it appears as it can be a belly crawl or on knees and palms crawling.
Dismissal: To be dismissed from the presence of the Mistress for discipline or punishment. The slave will back away from the Mistress with eyes lowered, crawling backwards.
Display: A predetermined body position that displays the submissive and makes them vulnerable, the slave stays in this position until released. Also can be called inspection. Kneeling with thighs apart, the slave should interlock their fingers behind their head, chin up, eyes lowered, butt should be sitting on their heels, straight back, chest and genitals out presented in a display for viewing. Can also be modified to display mouth or anus for insertion or giving of "gifts"
Down: This is to order a slave to move from a standing or kneeling position into a full face down lying on the floor position.
Down on Back: The slave assumes a position on their back with legs together and arms tight at their side.
Examination: Similar to a display position but is usually more than one position displaying a part of their body then on command moving to display a different part of their body.
Exit: For leaving the presence of the Mistress, the slave should never turn their back on the dominant. The turning of the back is considered an act of disrespect and punishable.
Follow: To follow the Mistress at
her exact pace 3-4 steps to the rear and to the left
Front or back cuff: The slave moves hands to their front or back to enable cuffing. However the cuffing can be mental and not a physical pair of cuffs.
Go to your Place: The slave goes to a location in the house and stays their until their Mistress has a need for them. Can also be augmented by having to kneel at the location.
Heel: The slave will follow slightly behind and to the right of the Mistress as opposed to the left in follow. Often used if the Mistress wishes to engage in conversation with the slave whilst walking.
Humble: Standing upright face down with legs parted to width of shoulders, arms out to sides to form a human cross. Can also be used whilst lying down
Informal: The slave stands with
their feet at the same width apart as their shoulders, head up, eyes
down, posture perfect but not rigid stiff.
Kneeling Present: Kneeling with thighs apart, back should be straight, chin up eyes down, palms up and resting on the front of thighs, butt on heels.
Obedience: The slave kneels and places their hands behind their back crossed at wrists. They will bend forward until their face is against the floor, uncomfortable for extended periods.
Stool: The slave gets down on
their hands and knees with head down in front of the Mistress. Back held
strong and rigid to act as a foot stool or table.
Surrender: Face down lying on the floor ankles crossed, arms above head with wrists crossed again to allow easy cuffing or mental cuffing.
Whip: A position either standing or kneeling. If standing then the slave should be exposing the back and buttocks for whipping. If kneeling the slave should present their back and buttocks while protecting their hands and neck by keeping those areas down.
Worship: Not a specific position rather it directs the slave into a position enabling worship of a specific body part of the Mistress.
24/7: A relationship in which protocols are in place continuously.
Bondage: Acts involving the physical restraint of a partner. Bondage
typically refers to total restraint, however it can be limited to a particular
body part, such as breast bondage.
Butt plug: Much like a dildo, only shaped slightly differently. The
flared base allows for safe anal penetration. They come in a variety of sizes;
some can vibrate.
Hard limits: What someone absolutely will not do, usually non-negotiable.
Scat play: Faeces play
Animal transformation fantasy: Fantasy in which the focus is on the sub entering the altered mind space of a different species, typically a dog, pony or horse.
Abrasion: Using something rough (such as sandpaper).
Ageplay: Usually referring to daddy/daughter or mommy/baby role play. Does not usually include or imply aspects of incest, but rather the nurturing relationship of parent/child or teacher/student.
Anal torture: The BDSM practice of inflicting pain on the anus.
Animal Play: The sub acts or dresses like an animal (puppy, pony, cow, etc.).
Auctioned off: Dominant auctions off the slave to the highest bidder (usually supervised and for temporary use).
BDSM: Bondage/Discipline, Dominance/Submission, Sadism/Masochism
Black Femdom: Same as Ebony femdom adding a racial element where the submissive is normally of a different race to the dominant.
Bottom: submissive or one who gives up control, or simply one who receives physical sensation from a top in a scene.
Breath Control: The dominant controls the submissive's breathing.
Chastity: A form of erotic sexual denial or orgasm denial whereby a person is prevented from access to, or stimulation of, their genitals, save at the whim or choice of their partner, usually by means of a device that prevents contact and is controlled by means of a lock by the partner.
CBT: Cock and ball torture
Collared: Submissive or slave who is owned, usually (but certainly not exclusively) in a loving intimate relationship. A dominant may have multiple persons collared.
Collaring: The formal acceptance by a dominant, of a sub's service, or the "ownership" of a pup by a Mistress. Also the ceremony when a dominant commits to a sub
Consent: Mutual agreement to the terms of a scene or ongoing bdsm relationship.
Consensual non-consensuality: A mutual agreement that within defined limits, or subject to a safe word or other restrictions, and common sense. As such, it is a show of trust and understanding and usually undertaken only by partners who know each other well, or otherwise agree to set clear safe limits on their activities.
Contract: A written-out agreement between the dominant & submissive. It can be either formal or non, and is usually written after much negotiation by the dominant and the sub, outlining what structure, guidelines, rules and boundaries to the relationship are agreed upon by the two . However it is not legally binding.
DM: Dungeon Monitor, a person who volunteers to supervise the interactions between participants at a play party to ensure their safety.
Domme: Woman who exercises control
Dungeon: Usually referring to a room or area with BDSM equipment and play space
Edgeplay: SM play which pushes the limits of the persons involved. This can be potentially dangerous activities such as fire, electricity, cutting, or breath play, but often isn't dangerous with the proper skills and experience.
Endorphin rush: Endorphins are the chemicals responsible for the "high" people often get from activities such as sex, or high-risk sports. BDSM activities, especially those incorporating a degree of sensation play often cultivate the endorphin rush as part of their "payoff" to the sub.
Erotic sexual denial: keeping another person aroused while delaying or preventing resolution of the feelings, to keep them in a continual state of anticipatory tension and inner conflict, and heightened sensitivity.
Fetish: A specific obsession or delight in one object or experience.
Fire play: Using flammable liquids to create quick, fleeting instances of flame on the skin of the bottom. Risk of injury is increased and the top should be learned with fire play skills.
Genitorture: Torture of the genitals
Golden showers: Urinating on, or being urinated on by, another person.
Gorean: A sub-genre based upon the rituals and practices created within the world of Gor in the erotic novels by John Norman.
Gunplay: The practice of including actual (or simulated) firearms into a scene.
Harem: A group of subs serving one or more dominants. Also referred to as stable
Impact play: Part of sensation play, dealing with impact such as whips, riding crops, paddles, floggers, etc.
Infantilism: Parent/child or parent/baby role playing.
Knife play: Slow, methodical sensation of the bottom with the edges and points of knives, usually without cutting the skin. Fear of the weapon plays a large part in the stimulus of the bottom.
Limits: What someone "won't" do or is hesitant to do
Masochism: Act of receiving pain for sensual/sexual pleasure.
Masochist: Person who enjoys pain, usually sexually.
Mistress/slave: A consensual relationship in which one person receives control (the Mistress) when given it by another (the slave) for mutual benefit. An extreme form of D/s which usually involves a 24/7 relationship rather than a short period of time (scene or perhaps a week end.)
Mummification: Immobilising the body by wrapping it up, usually with multiple layers of tight thin plastic sheeting. Breathing and other safety measures must be appropriately taken care of, often by leaving the face (or at least the mouth and nose) open.
Munch: A group of people that are into BDSM meeting at a "vanilla" place. Sometimes this is a club.
Needle play: Temporary piercings done with sterile needles of varying gauges, usually only for the duration of a scene.
Newbie: Someone new to BDSM.
OTK: Over the knee (spanking).
Painslut: A person who enjoys receiving a heavy degree of pain but may or may not necessarily enjoy submitting.
Play party: A BDSM event involving many people engaging in scenes.
ProDomme: Female professional dominant (charges money) look at the Domina Guide or paysite review pages
Ponygirl or Ponyboy: Sub is dressed in a pony outfit, with mouth bit and anal plug with a tail. They are told to prance or behave like a pony.
Pup-play: Sub is made to act like a puppy. Sub barks, whines, eats from a bowl, etc. Such play is sexual, but also focuses on the altered mind-space of bottom/pup and the complete dominance of his/her Trainer/Master.
RACK - Risk Aware Consensual Kink
Rape fantasy, ravishment: The pleasurable fantasy of inflicting or being a victim to an act of consensual play-rape.
Sadism: The act of inflicting pain.
Sadist: Person who enjoys inflicting pain, usually sexually.
SSC - Safe, Sane and Consensual
Safeword - When a participant utters a safeword, BDSM activity stops.
Scene: A time period of BDSM activities. Also used to refer to the BDSM community ("the Scene").
Sensation play: BDSM play where the intent is to push people's sensory limits, thus exploring texture, sensory deprival, through to whips and edgeplay.
Session: A time period of BDSM activities with a ProDomme.
Service-oriented submission: A person who enjoys performing a service in a sexual or BDSM environment
Slave: A person (usually submissive) who consensually gives up total control of one or more aspects of their life to another person (their Mistress)
Soft Limits: Something that someone is hesitant to do or nervous to try. They can sometimes be talked into the activity, or preferably it may be negotiated at a trial or beginner level into a scene.
Subdrop: A physical condition, often with cold- or flu-like symptoms, experienced by a submissive after an intense session of BDSM play. This can last for as long as a week, and is best prevented by aftercare immediately after the session.
submissive, or "sub" for short. Person that gives up control either all the time or for a specified period (Not to be confused with "bottom.")
Subspace: A "natural high" that a sub (or bottom) gets during a scene or when being controlled. The sub may feel disconnected from time, space, and/or their body, and may have limited ability to communicate. It is critical that a Dom(me)/top take responsibility for the sub/bottom and be aware of their sub's wellbeing.
Switch: Someone who likes being both top and bottom, either in one scene or on different occasions.
Tease and denial: Keeping another person aroused while delaying or preventing resolution of the feelings, to keep them in a continual state of anticipatory tension and inner conflict, and heightened sensitivity. (see also orgasm denial).
Tit torture: The act of causing deliberate physical pain to the breasts and nipples.
Top: Person "doing the action" (contrast with bottom - person receiving the action.)
Topping from the bottom: A bottom who porports to be a submissive but who nonetheless wants to direct the top.
Training: Either referring to a short period of time (a scene) or an ongoing effort of the dominant teaching the submissive how to act.
Vanilla: Someone who is not in the lifestyle. Alternatively, sexual behaviour which does not encompass BDSM activity. The term is sometimes used in a derogatory sense.
Wannabe: Someone who thinks or claims to be knowledgeable about BDSM, but is not. Especially prevalent with new dominants.
Wax play: The top drips hot wax on the bottom.
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24/7: A relationship in which protocols are in place continuously.
Bondage: Acts involving the physical restraint of a partner. Bondage
typically refers to total restraint, however it can be limited to a particular
body part, such as breast bondage.
Butt plug: Much like a dildo, only shaped slightly differently. The
flared base allows for safe anal penetration. They come in a variety of sizes;
some can vibrate.
Hard limits: What someone absolutely will not do, usually non-negotiable.
Scat play: Faeces play
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